So with foreign guy / Thai girl relationships so common these days, why is it that we hear far more tales of woe than we do fairy tales?
Of course Western men and Thai women are very different, but what I see are the same mistakes being made over and over again.
If you married a simple girl you might find she is unable to stimulate you intellectually.
You may find her simple nature appealing, uncomplicated and perhaps even cute, but will it remain endearing forever?
Believe me, the Thai family will examine you closely and they will ask all sorts of personal and impertinent questions. Are they people you would be proud to introduce your parents to?
These are the people you will be spending time with over holiday weekends, the people who may visit you unannounced and expect to stay with you for days on end and from whom there very well may be requests for assistance of some sort. I find it quite appalling the number of Westerners who have said to me that they love their in-laws to death and how they are decent people and the salt of the earth and they would do anything for them….no way in hell would they ever introduce them to their own parents!
I believe that more happiness or more misery comes from your relationship with your other half than any other aspect of your life – so it really is important to get it right!
We might not quite be in vogue like we were several years ago, but the average Thai woman will still consider a foreign guy, even if she is not one of the so-called farang hungry women.
They have plenty of mates who satisfy their intellectual needs.
That is all well and good but we simply cannot overlook the fact that some rural Thais have not had anything like the opportunities the average Westerner has.
That means that the norms of Thai relationships will become the norms of your relationship.
Try arguing with a Thai that you are not prepared to pay a dowry or not willing to support distant lay about relatives. I don't think it's any coincidence that when she speaks very good English and thus the language of the relationship is English that the chances of long-term success are much higher.
Drama with an hysterical girl in your condo is no-one's idea of fun.