Although the negative impact of divorce upon children is real, their worries may also be projections of fears for themselves.This is compounded if they suffered from their parents’ divorce.It took him a minute to explain what was going on because he kept stopping and staring at me. Anyway, he explained to my husband that there was a steam leak in the hot water heater in the visitors’ locker room and the visiting team couldn’t get enough hot water to shower. What must the white guys on his team think of him, I wondered.
The combined effect of this adds to fears of loneliness and isolation people that they envisage being on their own.
And since I had saved myself for him, that’s all I’ve had in my life. He’s the head maintenance man and the local college and since it’s an old place it needs him too.
It seems like we’ve only had sex a couple of times since we got married.
Do you feel trapped in a relationship you can’t leave? People give many explanations for staying, ranging from caring for young children to caring for a sick mate.
Millions of people remain in unhappy relationships that range from empty to abusive for many reasons; however, the feeling of suffocation or of having no choices stems from fear that’s often unconscious.
Going through divorce or separation brings with it all of the unfinished work of becoming an independent “adult.” Fears about leaving their spouse and children may be reiterations of the fears and guilt that they would have had upon separating from their parents, which were avoided by quickly getting into a relationship or marriage.